How to Declutter — Negative VS Positive Value

Sometimes it’s really difficult to evaluate our possessions and determine whether something has earned its place in our home. I hope my take helps!

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There was a time when I didn’t understand when or why I should keep or ditch something. As soon as I realized that each item I own has both positive and negative value and vibes, it became so much more clear what I wanted to have around me. Things with bad vibes? Absolutely not! Beautiful, space-efficient things I love? Heck yes!

Here are just a couple of tips for determining negative and positive value:

How much space does it take? Items can be useful and wonderful but still have a lot of negative value if they take up too much space. This is where you have to decide if an item is worth the space or not. If it’s not worth the space but you still want that type of functional tool in your life, look for a similar item that is space-efficient.

Do negative memories surround an item? I’ve used this example many times in my books and podcast, but it’s the example that cemented negative value in for me. I had a blouse that was beautiful and looked great on me…but when I purchased it, somebody said something incredibly rude to me. I kept the shirt but hated wearing it and I tried to avert my eyes when I opened the closet because every time I saw the blouse, I couldn’t help but remember that comment. Ditching that shirt was like ditching that comment. Now when I use it as an example and remember it, I see that comment as that person’s character issue and not mine. Even though it stung at the time, I’m grateful for the lesson I—eventually—learned.

If you have items that bring back terrible memories and make you feel bad about yourself, why are you keeping them? Is there enough negative value there that you can let those items go?

The same goes for the opposite—if you have something functional and to your taste with great memories attached, try to make space for it in your home.

Is it adding to the style you want to achieve in your home/wardrobe? If you have something that doesn’t add to the vibes you’re trying to achieve in your space, why are you keeping it? The negative value is that you have something that isn’t making your home/wardrobe feel the way you want, therefore taking up space you could be using for something that would make your home exactly the way you want it to be.

When I bring something into my home/wardrobe now, I’m hyper aware of style, quality, and space. I never want something that won’t be well-loved and used in our home again. Of course, I know I’ll fail at this task at many points, but I find myself succeeding more and more often.

Whatever you need to declutter, I hope these tips help you make decisions about what earns a place in your home and what needs to find a home elsewhere. After all, if you have to spend your precious time and resources housing it, shouldn’t you make sure it’s truly worth the effort?

Good luck with your ditching and declutter and remember, it’s all about the experiences, not the stuff.

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How to be a Minimalist Q&A

In this episode, I do my best to answer some of your questions. I hope you enjoy and that they’re helpful!

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I absolutely loved answering these questions. It made me consider carefully and allowed me to see how far I’ve come. I hope you’ll take a moment to see how far you’ve come, too.

Here are the questions and my answers:

1. What do you do with photographs? Personally, because we so heavily invest in experiences and travel, I love having photo albums. We don’t have a ton, but my kids love them, it’s a bonding experience to look at them together, and it’s preserving our family history. In the future, I’d like to replace the albums we have with one that’s made of wood or something that will go beautifully with our home—a feature instead of an excuse of a place that holds our memories.

If you don’t want a photo album, go digital. Ask family members if they want the originals of the old black and white photographs and consider uploading them to a genealogy site where many can enjoy them.

In my opinion, it’s not so much a problem that we keep photos of memories, but that we take SO MANY on our smart phones and never go through to clean them out. This is a project I’ve been working on a bit and want to dive into more, but even more importantly, I’m trying harder to not remove myself from the moment unless it’s truly worth the photo to disturb it. Taking less pictures will most certainly help with this question!

2. Do you have any tips for going plant-based? Absolutely I do! Here are the things I wish I would have learned ten years ago: Eat the best produce you can afford and more of it in general, and make simple meals that have complex flavors.

I wish I would have been eating as much produce as possible all these years because it has drastically improved my health to get lots of greens, veggies, and potatoes and rice into my body. They’ve healed so much of what was messed up. Also, most of the time, big box store produce is awful and I’m not surprised when I hear that people dislike salads or veggies. I don’t like salads or veggies from big box stores, either! As often as I can, I try to purchase produce at farmers markets, Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods, Sprouts, or other places like that. It’s far superior and worth the extra cost (if there is any—I often find savings).

Keeping the meals simple by creating new dishes with basic ingredients saves so much time and effort! I season and cook things differently, which prevents boredom and actually makes cooking interesting.

Eating plant-based takes effort and has forced a lot of change in my pantry, but it’s been one of the best things I’ve ever done. I feel amazing and so much happier.

3. Bullet Journals—how do you use one to achieve your goals? This question honestly needs a video, so watch out for that in the future. Basically, though, I use my bullet journal to plan out and achieve my goals, keeping a few lists of completed tasks in the pages.

1. Keep a write-out-your-goals page—don’t include how-to steps, here.

2. Keep a monthly spread page that has tasks you’ll complete within the month to be able to achieve your goals. Put check boxes next to the tasks because that’s just a nice feeling and also allows you to see success as well as areas you can improve.

3. After each monthly spread page, create basic weekly pages much like you’d find in a planner. Here you’ll turn your monthly tasks into micro tasks to check off each day.

Because I’ve focused on goals for my bullet journal (these dotted grid blank journals can be used for anything!), it’s very centered on that and doesn’t include things other than my goals. I’ve gotten so much done using this form of organizing! I might get one for home schooling next year because I love the way they work so well.

4. What made me decide to practice minimalism? There were two key moments that convinced me that a firm commitment to minimalism would greatly enhance my life. These stories are a lot longer than I try to keep these posts, so you’ll have to listen to the podcast episode on the player above in order to hear the full scoop, but basically, I had two moments a couple of years apart that massively contrasted each other and that’s when everything began to change.

First, when we were traveling a decade ago, I realized that everything that was truly important and necessary to me was in the car and tent trailer we towed. It made me feel vulnerable for a moment before a feeling of focus and love for my family washed over me. It made me committed to keeping what was enhancing my life and ditching the rest.

Secondly, when we were settled into a home we were renting a year or so later, I found myself overwhelmed by the mess and dredges from letting too much stuff into our home and lives. I’d felt betrayed by minimalist expectations and had walked away from minimalism, but this was an even greater betrayal—stuff really doesn’t make you happy if it’s excessive, unnecessary, and unused.

I’m so grateful for those two experiences—my mental shift never would have happened without them.

5. Where can I find your recipes? First off, you can find most of them by scrolling through the blog right here. Also, you can find them on my YouTube channel—How to be a Minimalist—or at all the links I’ve conveniently placed below. There are a few special recipes that I give to Patrons. If you’d like to become a patron of my work, you can do so by clicking HERE. Thanks for your support!

Hope this Q&A helps and I’ll see you next time. Remember, it’s all about the experiences, not the stuff.

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